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EDUCATION: Holt High School, Holt Mich., Lansing Community College, Southwestern Theological Seminary, National Apostolic Bible College. MINISTERIAL EXPERIENCE: 51 years of pastoral experience, 11 churches in Arizona, New Mexico and Florida. Missionary work in Costa Rica. Bishop of the Districts of New Mexico and Florida for the Apostolic Assembly. Taught at the Apostolic Bible College of Florida and the Apostolic Bible College of Arizona. Served as President of the Florida Apostolic Bible College. Served as Secretary of Education in Arizona and New Mexico. EDUCACIÓN: Holt High School, Holt Michigan, Lansing Community College, Seminario Teológico Southwestern, Colegio Bíblico Nacional. EXPERIENCIA MINISTERIAL: 51 años de experiencia pastoral, 11 iglesias en los estados de Arizona, Nuevo México y la Florida. Trabajo misionera en Costa Rica. Obispo de la Asamblea Apostólica en los distritos de Nuevo México y La Florida. He enseñado en el Colegio Bíblico Apostólico de la Florida y el Colegio Bíblico Apostólico de Arizona. Presidente del Colegio Bíblico de la Florida. Secretario de Educación en los distritos de Nuevo México y Arizona.

Monday, February 14, 2022

PORNOGRAPHY IN MARRIAGE

 

Hebrews 13:4, I Corinthians 7-1-5

Pornography can start with something as simple as a photo on the computer or in a men's magazine or on the internet. And before long, the need for stimulation will take you step by step from graphic material to more explicit and revealing material, and in the blink of an eye; we do it more and more frequently.

Pornography encourages us to treat each other as objects or pleasure machines. Pornography sows the seeds of isolation and leads to unhealthy relationships and loss of self-respect. As the user becomes more and more involved in the fantasy world, pornography becomes an obsession. However, there is good news. We can free ourselves from the bondage of pornography.

Pornography was long ago a vice of the very rich. No one else could afford pornographic luxuries. The Roman Emperor named Caesar Tiberius was addicted to pornography and when he wanted to satisfy himself, he bought special drawing scrolls from Egypt or brought young men and young ladies trained in sexual practices to the palace for private demonstrations.

Today, all that has changed. Anyone can buy porn. With two clicks on the computer, anyone can see anything on the internet. To say that "pornography is easy to obtain" today is an understatement. Today we have pornography glued to our eyes whether we want to see it or not!

We live in Pornotopia. In Pornotopia, ordinary people ask questions that they would not have even thought to ask in the past. Today, questions such as the following are being asked: Why shouldn't a married couple use pornography to increase their sexual arousal and enhance their sexual relationships? Or why can't we watch a porn movie together before we go to bed? Still, many argue, "we do it for a good cause and at least we do it together."

Not only is this bad, but it also doesn't work either! The wife and husband are not doing it together. To think about it is to fool oneself. In reality, other people are being invited into the intimacy of marriage! Viewing pornography does not improve your sexual relationships. In fact, pornography reduces your arousal and also weakens what can increase your arousal.

Why aren't they doing it together? Bedtime comes, the couple looks at pornography. The husband becomes aroused by looking at images of women instead of looking at his wife: the wife is aroused by looking at the image of a man in a movie instead of looking at her husband. They go to bed and have sex. The question is; who are they having sex with? They are probably in the act of sex at the same time but it is quite clear that they are not sharing the act with each other. The husband is living out his fantasy with the woman in the movie and the wife with the man in the movie. The fact that they are not physically present is just a detail. "You have heard that it was said: "You shall not commit adultery. But I tell you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5: 27-28

We would be amazed at the suggestion of hiring prostitutes for the night, to get aroused with them, and then simultaneously turn around to complete the sexual experience with their marriage partner. However, this is essentially what they are doing. They are having sex with other people even though no one else is present other than themselves.

Pornography does not increase sexual relationships in marriage It was only a generation ago that the expression "making love" could be used for any of the things that lovers do, such as holding hands, making incredible promises, doing special things to each other, whispering sweetly into your partner's ear. "Making love" meant any experience where lovers lost their minds for each other in demonstrations of love ... because sacrificing for each other is what "making love" really means. Today, unfortunately, we use the expression "making love" only for the sexual act. It is a misleading expression. Sure, sex can be a way to make love, but it can also be a way to destroy it!

The reason the sexual act within marriage is a way of making love is that the husband loses himself in complete delight in serving and pleasing his wife and the wife does the same for her husband. By contrast, when a married couple has sex, incorporating pornography, neither of them is attentive to their partner, each is thinking of himself. The husband is satisfying himself, not his wife while imagining that his wife is not his wife, but another woman, and thus the wife imagines that her husband is not her husband, but the elegant man she is thinking of. That is not making love… This is masturbating with the body of your wife or her husband!

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